On her birthday  / Kelly Charron (Daughter)
I wish you were here now more than ever.  Today is Mom's birthday and it's sure to be a difficult day.  Ask Jesus to comfort her today and in the days to come.   Close

We remember  / Elaine His (wife)
In the rising of the sun and its going down,
We Remember Them.

In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter,
We Remember Them.

In the opening of the buds and in the rebirth of spring.
We Remember Them.

In the blueness of the skies and in the warmth of summer,
We Remember Them.

In the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of autumn.
We Remember Them.

In the beginning of the year and when it ends,
We Remember Them.

When we are weary and in need of strength,
We Remember Them.

When we are lost and sick of heart,
We Remember Them.

When we have joys and special celebrations we yearn to share,
We Remember Them.

So long as we live, they too shall live, for they are part of us.
We Remember Them.



By Rabbi Sylvan Kamens 

and I remember, too.
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Hello Dickie  / Kelly Charron (daughter)
Hello Dickie, 'tis I your daughter!  I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you.  Close

x-mas '06  / Ron P. (BIL)
well my brother , a x-mas passes me without our presence , it's very hard to understand . your scrimp eating buddy misses you too . i can still hear your voice in my mind when i would call to talk to my sister , but before sis got on we would talk alittle and you were always upbeat . i cant believe those talks are gone , but they are not forgotten . you had a big job when you were among us , now you have an even bigger job brother , taking care of my son that is with you now , i know you will and i also know that you wont fail me my friend , lobster eating pal, buddy , brother . i miss you ! Close

With a kiss and many tears  / Elaine Dickie's (Wife)

Merry Christmas
                            My Love

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Ealine this is sandij from widows net  / Sandij Ginn (new friend of elaine )

so sorry he had to leave you ,i'm sure heaven is brighter &he wouldn't want to return any more than my dudley would he went to be with the lord nov 28,2006.i can't feel what you do nor you i ,yet we are there for each other thru this hard time in the walk until jesus face we see ,i usre hope i never face anything this hard again. we do know how much our savior cares for us ,so it will get us thru ,god bless your family elaine -sjgw(watkins)

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A double birthday today  / Elaine M. (wife)
Today is our Zeke's birthday and would have been your 56th birthday also. I wish you were here to celebrate both of these with all of us. My heart hurts for all of us, especially you.

Life can be petty can't it sweetie? You knew that and I'm just learning exactly how petty people can be. Your feelings that your family would care for me in the event of your death couldn't have been further from the truth. But, we know the truth don't we? The 25 years we spent together is more then they could ever sully. None of them have any personal respect or they would do what was right.

I wonder what they would say if they knew we've talked since you left this earth? Shhhhhh~~~ I know. Close

Another birthday passes  / Elaine (wife)
I made a wish to turn back the time so we could enjoy a dinner at Nick's. Sadly, that's all it was, a wish. 
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A Prayer  / K. Charron (Daughter)

Open the gates, Sweet Jesus.

Your children are tired.

Their burden has been heavy.

They’ve done their best to survive.



Open your arms, Sweet Jesus,

And hold them close.

Let them feel the warmth of

Your unwavering love.



Give them beds, Sweet Jesus,

where the Angels sleep.

Let them wake whole again.

It’s a brand new day.



Comfort them, Sweet Jesus.

Tell them not to fear.

It’s going to be alright

For us down here. 

                                                           K Charron
                                                           ©2006















                                                                                        

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Where are the words?  / Kelly Charron (daughter)
I've sat down to write this many times before.  I keep waiting for some wonderfully eloquent words to describe all that I have been thinking and feeling since you died.  I guess I can boil it down to this...I miss you.  I wish you were here to see Zeke grow.

Zeke is getting to be such a big boy.  He's smart, funny, handsome and his smile is like pure sunshine.  I think you and he would have had great fun together.  I like to think back to your perfect day when you were holding your newborn grandson and watching your Redskins play.   That memory gives me comfort. 

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A tribute to our nephew on his birth day  / Elaine (His wife )
I remember Scotty and meeting him the very first time. All I could think of was what an ANNOYING little boy!! I have to laugh and cry at the same time over that thought today.

My nephew was about 5 when he was here visiting with his family. My brother was clearly frazzled with him on the trip as Scotty always followed a different voice then the one of reason. We lived in the country and all my nephews were perfectly safe being out in the yard and running some of their energy off. Us adults figured we would barbecue and then hose the children off to come back in the house. Scott and his two brothers were running and yelling around the yard, doing exactly what 3 little boys are suppose to do.

Here they came, tearing around the house with Scotty in the rear as he was the baby of the crew. The 2 older boys took a hard left and Scott went straight. Straight into the grill with hot coals and all showering down around him. Before I could even react, my brother was there snatching Scott up and running for the hose.

Because Dad grabbed him up so quick, Scott wasn't injured at all. When they got home though Scott was evaluated and found to have AHADD.

Years went by and Scotty grew to be a compassionate and intense young man. There were good years and bad, but Dad was always there to help him get by. July 27th our young man choose to end his life, and he took his Dad's heart with him.

How I wish he were here so I could tell him in person, what an annoying little boy you were. We all miss Scott intensely.

With tears and love,
Aunt Elaine 

Please visit Scott's memorial sight and light a candle.

http://scottphillips.memory-of.com/

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my baby  / Ron Phillips (brother-in-law)

hear me brother-in law , i know that you will take care of my baby , scotty . in his confused state of mind he decided to cut short his life as you did my friend . show my scotty the way around and how to do things . help him my friend as i know you will . now you have my son to show how to eat schrimp and lobster . you are gone but i can asure you, not forgotten in an eternity . you have the understanding and the patience for a 22 year old . guide him well my friend .  until we all meet again , in your peaceful place .

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Never been a Kinder Man  / Angela (Daughter-In-Law)
I miss you more than I can tell you.  You were such a sweet, kind and gentle person.  You could give the BEST hugs...made me feel so loved!!  I wish you were here now, so I could have a hug.   I want to turn back time, and maybe you would still be here.  You are never out of my thoughts.  I cherish the memories I have of you and wouldn't trade them for anything.  Missing you everyday.  I LOVE YOU!! Close

Take care of him  / Elaine (his wife )
Scotty has joined you and we all grieve his loss. Sweetheart, take good care of him for his Dad and all of us. This has been a terrible time for us all. 

I also ask you to shut this door of suicide in our family. No other lives need be lost for any reason. You know now the grief we have from both you and Scotty and I believe in my heart you can help stop this. 

Please, we can't take anymore.

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He is in God's Arms Now  / Julie Westly (Friend of Mom )

Please find comfort in knowing your Dickie is now in the arms of God. We lost our Vet, Josh to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Dec. 22, 2005. His site and "story" are here:
http://joshua-omvig.memory-of.com/about.aspx   

We know your pain, and we know your numbness...please know we are here if you ever need anyone to talk to. Strangers are not strangers on FFOS, we are all a family now.

God Bless and Grant you Peace
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Shared Loss  / Judi Hopkin
I  am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I am a FFOS member and aI have read some of your writings there.  I lost my hjusbnad to suicide 4 months ago and I really feel for your pai nand loss.  It is such a difficult journey and one that none of us ever imagined even taking.  May you find peace and comfort along the way, especially knowing that others care and are willing to share your grief and loss.  Hugs, Judi Close

Sympathy / DeDe (none)
Deepest sympathy from a suicide survivor. My teenaged nephew shot himself as his parents walked into the house and he died in his mother's arms. That has been many years ago, and the pain is still there. Never talked about as if it is some forbidden subject, as is his name. There has been such a void in our family for so many years and yet his name is never spoken as if he didn't exist.  I know too well the what if's, the guilt, the anger, and finally the acceptance. Sometimes that last one is a long time coming. After all these years, I still feel anger, that such a selfish act denied his family his presence in their lives. My heart aches for you and I know what you mean about the opened door, I had two sons and always feared that one of them might choose this permanent solution to a temporary problem as my nephew did. Especially as my youngest was moody like my nephew was. I pray that you and your family will find peace in your heart. There is nothing that anyone can say to take away your hurt, but do know that those of us reaching out to you are praying for you also. God Bless. Close

Sorry for your loss  / Anonymous (passerby)
Recently, I posted a web site in memory of my son's father, who passed away two years ago from cancer. As I was reading about what happened to your husband, it made me feel a deep sense of sorrow. I understand the pain of someone having a mental illness like manic-depression because I have another type of a mood disorder. I can understand what you have endured and I also can understand what your husband may have been going through. There is nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening. Some people with this illness do not have any control over what they are thinking or how they are feeling. Many times, they are afraid to even tell anybody, even their own families. It is especially difficult to tell a therapist or psychiatrist for fear that you will be "put away." Even when some people are going through mania, depression or a mixed episode - they are afraid that people will think they're crazy. I know that I have felt that way many times. There is a strong stigma attached to this illness, although there are more people with bipolar disorder than diabetes, in this country. I know that I am still grieving over my loss and I think about what I should have said or done, before my son's father died....or about issues that I had wanted to resolve. At times, I tear myself up just thinking about the "what if's." I sympathize with your pain and I am very sorry you had to go through this. I just try and remember the good in my son's father and what a good Dad he was to his only son. My thought and prayers are for you and your children. Close

I sadly understand your pain,God understands your pain, even more  / Trisha[vistor]mem Of Christina Valle
I am also a surivivor, my precious neice, Tina, died on oct the 17th, 2005, from suicide, she suffered from depression, bi-polar dis-order, and presonality dis-order, so i to sadly understand, Tina, still was able to hide alot of feelings, she loved people, had a heart of Gold, and was so young, 31 years old, please don't blame yourself, i know, her mom, and i went through alot of, if only, what if, thank God for our church, and their support groups, but i do blame her husband, she had left him 8 months before her death, he knew she was sick, he didn't let her take her medications for the 7 years she was with him, he beat her, and the words he called her, were ungodly, [we didn't know of this until she left him] she hid this abuse very well from others, but it wasn;t her fault, she didn't know what to do, her husband had a open website, for her, and the whole world to see, [it was a public site] and he begged her to kill herself, everyday he would write this hate, on a open website to her, this man pushed, a very ill preson over the edge, what he didnt know, is i was copying everything he posted, there will be justice for Tina, i told you alittle of  her story, in hopes that you know that Thomas, is with the LORD, alot of people will try and tell you different, please don't let them break your spirit, God said i will have mercy on whom i want to have mercy on, just as a preson can be sick with a deadly diease of the body, a preson can be sick with a deadly diease of the mind, and God knows this, only God knows our hearts, Tina, loved the Lord, she knew God's word, Tina, was just very ill, and in my heart, i know God knew she could take no more, i believe God can, and does use, even as painful as it seems death, for his glory, i know something good will come from Tina's death, sorry tears,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,i know it hurts so bad, i understand how you feel, i know something good will come out of this for your family, i am just so sorry for the loss of your precious Thomas, tears,,,,,,,,,,,,,,i pray i didn't come across mean, in anyway, i just want you to know, that you will see Thomas again one day,take comfort in knowing, Thomas is walking on streets of gold, in heaven, in all his glory, i pray people, even the ones that truly know the Lord, will educate themselves on suicide, and know that a preson that takes their life, doesn't make that choice, they are not thinking in the right frame of mind, at that moment,  they didn't want to hurt us, they loved us, they were just ill, God knows their heart, Thomas's family will forever be in my heart, and prayers, God Bless, and Take Care,, until we see them again in glory.
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My thoughts are with you  / Sue K.
My condolences to you and your family. I know how hard this is. My uncle commited suicide in 2004. So I am also a survivor. You made a beautiful couple. He is looking down at you from Heaven's gate.  My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Take care of yourself. Close